always been uncomfortable, and very slightly annoyed and angry that so much of fandom is obsessed with who gets to 'bang' Buffy last. Why can't someone be comfortable with being on their own for a while; polyamorous, or just simply taking lovers when she wants; or needs. Or just being single for a while?
Goddess YES! Thank you! You nailed what I've been feeling for the past 4 (? 5?) years regarding Miss Summers and this fandom. (Never mind that it's bothered me for decades in general - that women aren't worth anything unless they are paired up, presumably with a man.)
Nobody could hear her, but she was laughing out loud all the way; every once in a while channelling Furiosa from that Mad Max movie Faith was obsessed with.
AH! I apologize for not reading this sooner, as I know you meant this with me in mind (and my horrendous nagging) but it's been absolutely worth the wait. I knew you could paint a picture of a mature, contented Buffy Summers and you absolutely have - so much more enjoyable to me right now than reading about an empty, lonely Slayer dragging herself around the world, pining for a lover and beating herself up with guilt (a favorite scenario of "shippers" everywhere), or dying because she has no will to live.All these things overlook how much strength Buffy had and what made her such an inspiration to me when I first encountered her in the midst of my own deep depression.
This is the Buffy Summers who lives in my heart and who I need right now in these most uncertain and frightening times.
I'm babbling, forgive me but in short, you made me smile. This is delightful and a much-needed balm.
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Date: 24 Jan 2017 19:21 (UTC)Goddess YES! Thank you! You nailed what I've been feeling for the past 4 (? 5?) years regarding Miss Summers and this fandom. (Never mind that it's bothered me for decades in general - that women aren't worth anything unless they are paired up, presumably with a man.)
Nobody could hear her, but she was laughing out loud all the way; every once in a while channelling Furiosa from that Mad Max movie Faith was obsessed with.
AH! I apologize for not reading this sooner, as I know you meant this with me in mind (and my horrendous nagging) but it's been absolutely worth the wait. I knew you could paint a picture of a mature, contented Buffy Summers and you absolutely have - so much more enjoyable to me right now than reading about an empty, lonely Slayer dragging herself around the world, pining for a lover and beating herself up with guilt (a favorite scenario of "shippers" everywhere), or dying because she has no will to live.All these things overlook how much strength Buffy had and what made her such an inspiration to me when I first encountered her in the midst of my own deep depression.
This is the Buffy Summers who lives in my heart and who I need right now in these most uncertain and frightening times.
I'm babbling, forgive me but in short, you made me smile. This is delightful and a much-needed balm.